Why Only Sons? A Father’s Heartfelt Plea to Society

“Why Haven’t You Had a Son Yet?”

This is a question many women across our society have had to face—whether whispered behind their backs or spoken outright. It’s a cruel and unfair question, loaded with expectations and judgment. My wife, even after 12 years of marriage and two beautiful daughters, still has to endure this. She still hears remarks like, “Oh, two daughters? You never thought about having a son?”

But what people don’t realize is that these comments aren’t just casual—they’re deeply hurtful. And not just to the mother, but to the father too.

The Pressure Every Mother Faces

It seems like society has made it a point to chase every woman whose first child is a daughter. Relatives, neighbors, even random acquaintances begin to question: “When are you trying for a son?” As if it’s some task she has failed at. As if producing a son is entirely in her control.

People start implying:
“There must be something wrong with you.”
“Why can’t you give birth to a boy?”
“Are you even trying properly?”

But let me ask you this: Is she God? Is she the one who chooses what soul enters this world?

If It’s That Important, Why Are You a Woman?

If you’re someone who believes having a son is the ultimate goal, let me challenge that belief. Ask yourself:
Could you choose to be born a boy? If sons are so superior, then why are you a woman yourself? Why didn’t you do some ‘magic’ and become a boy?

It sounds absurd, right? Because that’s not how life works. And that’s exactly the point—we don’t get to choose the gender of our child. So why do we pressure women for something not in their hands?

Even I Faced It as a Father

Even I, a man, have faced judgment. When someone would ask, “How many kids do you have?” and I’d reply, “Two daughters,” their reaction was always the same:
“Oh… just daughters? It’s okay, God will give you a son one day.”

Excuse me? I never asked for your sympathy. I never said I needed a son. But still, people felt the need to console me—as if my daughters weren’t enough.
Please, stop saying that.

Society Brainwashes Men Too

What’s worse is that these societal pressures creep into men’s minds too. They’re conditioned—slowly, silently—to believe that their wives must produce a son. And when that doesn’t happen, they lash out.

Some even threaten their wives with divorce or talk about marrying again. Why? Just because their wife gave birth to a daughter instead of a son?

This isn’t just wrong. It’s heartbreaking.

What Have Sons Achieved That Daughters Can’t?

I’m a son too. And let me ask you—what extraordinary things have we sons done that daughters can’t? In my personal experience, daughters are often more loyal, more loving, and more devoted to their parents than sons.
They are no less. In fact, in many ways, they are more.

To All Fathers with Daughters: Be Thankful

If you are blessed with daughters, please be thankful. Don’t let society poison your heart. Don’t let anyone make you feel like your family is incomplete without a son.

You may not realize it now, but your daughters might be more loyal, more caring, and more genuinely yours than any son ever could be.

To Society and Especially to Men: Please Wake Up

This message is especially for the men reading this. Don’t fall into the trap of social expectations. Don’t measure your family’s worth by whether or not you have a son.

If God has gifted you daughters, you are already blessed.

Cherish them. Protect them. Raise them like the queens they are.
And be proud—because you are already complete.