What Kind of a Men Does a Woman Want?
What Pakistani Men Expect from Women:
If men want a woman who behaves with seductive, flirtatious gestures like those of a courtesan, they should look into her heart and ask themselves if they’re willing to become the man she desires. Does she ever tell them that their breath smells bad? Does she complain when they’re always tired?
Women’s Expectations from Men:
Does she ever point out that they’ve developed a belly? Does she ever say that they’re unable to provide as much as the husband of the neighbor provides for his wife? If men want their wives to look like Angelina Jolie at home, they should also become Brad Pitt, right? Women, too, have desires and expectations.
A woman wants the same thing that a men wants.
Today, I want to clear up the misconception that men have when they say, “I need respect!” So, is she their servant? She also needs respect. If men need attention and love, she isn’t made of iron either; she also needs love and attention, and she only wants it from them.
Read this carefully as I explain the difference. When a man says his sexual needs are not being fulfilled, he goes outside, satisfies his needs, and proudly says, “I wasn’t getting satisfied, so I went out.” If men are hypersexual and aware of their needs, they should realize that a woman, too, has desire. Her libido can be just as high, and sometimes when they feel unsatisfied, they should ask themselves if they are making sure to satisfy her. Unlike them, she isn’t going out to sleep with someone else because she respects herself, which they don’t. She only wants respect and love from her husband.
How Men Can Control Their Lust for Other Women:
The biggest reason for infidelity or cheating lies in a man’s inability to control his lust. There’s nothing lacking with his wife; they share a good physical bond, and she’s attractive as well. They are very intimate in their relationship. Still, the husband feels the need to go outside and engage in these acts because his lust isn’t fulfilled.
How to Channel Your Lust:
When such couples come to me for counseling, I tell them that this is natural—lust is given by God! Men need to channel it. They often offer this “gift” everywhere, allowing anyone to take it. They need to direct that lustful part of themselves toward their wives. Initially, it might feel like there’s no spark, but they should push themselves, and eventually, they’ll feel attracted to their wives again. This is crucial, as a man’s uncontrolled lust is a major reason for infidelity.
Never Marry a Man Who Is a Mama’s Boy:
This part is very interesting. When a girl gets married and enters a new home, it feels like a department opens on the very first day, and that department is the newsroom. The newsroom reports everything she does throughout the day—what she eats, what she does, who she talks to, and how she talks. This is the dilemma. The relationship’s foundation often sets on poor footing, with the in-laws attempting to control her through their son. They try to tame her and keep her in line.
What Is the In-Laws’ Manipulation Tactic?
The husband doesn’t act decisively; instead, he starts seeing his wife through his family’s lens, forming opinions about her based on what they tell him. This is known as the in-laws’ manipulation tactic, and it deteriorates the relationship. I always say that a man who is still a mama’s boy shouldn’t get married. He should stay that way. If he consults his mother before making decisions about his wife, he isn’t ready to be married.
