Relationship Death Sentence: How Sarcasm and Indirect Communication Destroy Bonds

If you want to give your relationship the death sentence, start creating problems on your own—it will end, and people do that.

Unhealthy Communication: Sarcasm and Taunting

The first sign of unhealthy communication is that the other person’s tone becomes sarcastic; they start taunting you. They might say they’re just talking, but in their words, they’ll sneak in sarcasm and taunts.

Drawing Negative Conclusions

Then, within the conversation, they’ll draw their own conclusions, saying things like, “Oh, so you mean this?” (in a negative way), or “Are you accusing me of this?” They draw their own conclusions.

Indirect Communication and Involving Others

Another crucial point is that they will never communicate directly. Most of the time, men do this—they involve family members, often their own or the girl’s parents.

The Danger of Involving Children

Even worse, they bring the children into it, saying things like, “Your mom does this” or “Your mom did that.” This is very dangerous because the poison spreads throughout the family.

Lack of Empathy and Self-Prioritization

After this, they lack empathy when they talk to you; there’s no passion in their communication. What they are doing is prioritizing themselves.

Seeking Help

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This is something I often talk about when I do relationship counseling, especially after infidelity. Whether I’m counseling couples or doing individual therapy, I always mention this to the person who has been cheated on, which in most cases is women. You will have episodes where your memory will repeatedly trigger that incident. You may think you’re going to have a great day, but then the thought of the cheating comes to mind, and your entire day gets ruined.

What do people who have been cheated on seek from their partners?

You want empathy and compassion from your partner, especially the one who cheated on you. You want them to apologize again, affirming that they love only you, and that what they did was a mistake. If you’ve forgiven them, that’s a big thing—you’ve forgiven them and accepted them back. But just because you’ve forgiven doesn’t mean you won’t be reminded of it again. You will remember it! This is where the partner needs to be compassionate and considerate, understanding that they need to be patient and tell you that it was their mistake and that it won’t happen again.

What is the common issue addressed during relationship counseling after infidelity?

I always tell my clients in sessions that if the person who was hurt needs verbal assurance, give them verbal assurance. If they need something practical, show them through actions.