What is Love? Is it an emotion? or love is the biggest lie?
Love is Not Just an Emotion, It’s a Choice
I saw a very beautiful thing on the internet: Love is not an emotion, it’s a choice. Remember, emotions fluctuate. Our feelings for someone today might be, “I feel good, so I love you a lot.” But if I feel bad tomorrow, does that mean love is gone? It doesn’t work like that.
Love is Not Dependent on Mood Swings
It’s not like if someone behaves rudely, doesn’t listen to you, or does something that makes you angry, you will stop loving them. Your feelings for them might fluctuate, which is fine. One day you might think, “I’m not feeling great,” but that doesn’t mean you should take all your frustrations out on your partner. That’s not how it should be.
Is love a biggest lie?
The Biggest Lie About Marriage
The biggest lie ever told about marriage is that love is necessary for it, that love is the foundation of marriage. This is a huge lie.
Love is Not the Foundation of Marriage
No, love is a feeling that fluctuates with time.
Mutual Respect is the Real Foundation
What the real foundation is, is respect—mutual respect. If that isn’t there, brother, then it isn’t a marriage.
Respect is More Important Than Love
And I will prove it to you. I get cases, couples come to me, or for example, a lady will come.
Example of Disrespect in Marriage
She will say, “He loves me a lot, but he also hits me, insults me in front of everyone, in front of the in-laws, humiliates me in public gatherings, but the next day he comes and begs for forgiveness, saying, ‘I love you so much, I can’t leave you.'”
This is Not Love
Now she stays, but first of all, this is not love. And even if it is love, if there is no respect, then this is not a marriage, it’s not a relationship. Leave it.
Don’t Settle for Less
Don’t sell yourself for less. This is the problem, and most of the time it happens to women.
It Happens to Both Genders
I’m not saying that men don’t get disrespected. Sometimes the wife disrespects the husband, and the husband endures it.
Disrespect in a So-Called Loving Marriage
I tell both of them, if in your marriage, there is this so-called love where you are disrespecting and hurting each other and justifying it with love, leave it. This is not a relationship.
Only God Deserves Your Devotion
Your only true love is for God.
Biggest Missconception about Love
The biggest mistake we make in relationships is thinking that love is about finding the right person. What we do is create a checklist and go out searching for the perfect husband or wife. But are you ready to Become the Right Husband or Wife yourself? You want a wife, but are you ready to become the husband she deserves? You want a husband, but are you prepared to be the wife he needs?
Love is About Giving
Love is about giving to someone. Reciprocation Happens Naturally. For us, romance has become about wondering, “Why doesn’t he bring me flowers? Why doesn’t he dedicate songs to me?” But why don’t you do it? Why don’t you become that loving person first? When you do this, the other person will reciprocate. Don’t just wait for them to fulfill your desires—start giving love first.
Love Without Conditions
We often think, “I’ll give love if I get it first,” but love doesn’t work with conditions. If you truly love someone, you will love both their Good and Bad Sides. Love isn’t about setting terms; it’s about embracing the person fully, with all their flaws.
