How do you characterize a Real Man?

Weak Men are cheaters:

If a man is married, in his 40s, and settled in life somewhere, but you see him flirting with other girls, trust me, he has a weak personality. Somewhere in his home, there is a woman with a strong personality. He couldn’t match the energy of that strong-character woman because he was insecure and knew his own shortcomings. An insecure man is one who knows his wife deserves better than him. Now, what he does for validation is he goes to girls who are financially lower than him or far below his league. When they praise him and compliment him, he enjoys it because he couldn’t get that validation from the woman who is in his house because she has a strong personality, and he has a weaker personality; he couldn’t match her personality.

Silent men are often great liars:

Silent men often tend to be great liars. I have often seen this, and specifically, I am talking from my experience. It’s not just my own experience; when I do counseling, many women complain about their husbands being silent throughout the relationship. They later find out that there were many skeletons in their closet, many things hidden and buried away, things they never even imagined. One of the reasons is that when your partner is silent, doesn’t talk much, doesn’t communicate much, they fear that if they speak up and the conversation progresses, they will expose themselves. So, they try to hold back as much as possible. I always say to a girl before marrying such a guy, it’s a huge red flag. Talk to your parents, talk to your siblings, if no one else, talk to a counselor or therapist. Do not fall for it immediately thinking he is just quiet and doesn’t talk much; it’s not a green flag, it’s a huge red flag. If someone comes to me for counseling, I will give them exactly this advice.

Dear Man! Stop running from discussions with your wife/partner

Men often run away from discussions and avoid addressing issues with their partners. This is a huge problem, and for a long time, I used to avoid these conversations too because I just couldn’t handle them. But now I understand how crucial it is. You can’t escape from it.

The Importance of Communication

I’m not saying you need to discuss everyday matters all the time—there will be days when you’re tired or not in the mood for it. But I strongly urge men that if you start to bottle things up, there will eventually be an outburst, and it will be very bad.

Consequences of Avoidance

If your partner starts showing interest in someone else, then you’ll accuse her of being unfaithful or pulling away. But the reality is, you weren’t there when she tried to discuss things with you about your relationship. You would shut her down, and that leads to disaster.

Author : Syed Ali Haider

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