Give as much love as you can sustain.

Love Bombing and Setting Unrealistic Expectations

Men often make the mistake of loved bombing, where they put the girl on a pedestal, treating her like a princess. In my sessions, I always advise men: don’t do that! We end up acting more loved than we can sustain for the rest of our lives.

Raising Expectations Too High

We elevate her expectations to an unrealistically high level. After marriage, she continues to expect the same level of affection, but we don’t deliver. It’s not that men don’t, they do, but the problem is that everything for men is a goal. The woman becomes a goal, and once we achieve that goal, we stop putting in the same effort.

Sprint vs. Marathon

Men are willing to run a sprint race to win her over, but they don’t commit to the marathon. They need to remember that she’s a human being, not just a goal.

Consistency in Love

Give her as much love as you can sustain for a lifetime. After love bombing, men tend to switch to breadcrumbing, giving her just enough attention to keep things going. This shift leaves the woman in shock, as she wonders what happened to the intense affection she once received.

How can love fade away

How can love have the courage to disappear?

It is you who deliberately leave it at the doorstep of oblivion. Every person has a loving language, which is abundant at the start of a relationship. You used to compliment, give flowers, go on dates. But when you stop doing those things that were the essence of your relationship, you start to complain that love is fading away.

How to keep love from fading?

I always say that love is not a noun; it’s a verb—you have to practice it actively. You used to speak with lovely words, but now your words are harsh. You used to compliment their dress, but now you don’t. You stopped practicing your love language, so why complain that love is fading? You are the one ending it with your own hands.

Relive the initials of your relationship:

I’m not saying that after marriage, you have to behave like boyfriend and girlfriend, but at least once or twice a month, you can relive the beginnings of your relationship. The things you used to do in the early days—do them even after 3-5 years, and I bet my neck on it, your relationship will stay alive.