Try to See the Good in Your Partner
We See in Others What Exists Within Us
You see in others what reflects your own inner qualities. If you notice flaws in your partner, it may be because those flaws exist within you as well. I’ve observed couples where, despite the husband having many faults, the wife still sees something good in him because she herself has goodness within her.
The Example of the Housefly and the Honeybee
Consider this example: a housefly sits on trash, while a honeybee sits on a flower and extracts something good from it. The honeybee finds value because it seeks what is good.
Our Judgments Reflect Our Own Inner Nature
We often see flaws in others because those same flaws exist in us, and we are quick to judge them. On the other hand, we appreciate and praise others when we see qualities that resonate with the goodness within us. This is why we are able to find the good in others, making them mirrors of our own inner self.
A True Partner Understands Your Silence
More Than Just Communication
People often say “communication is the key,” but that’s only half the truth. The complete truth is that there must be a sense of empathy and understanding. For example, a mother understands her baby’s needs when he cries, even before he can speak. Even more remarkably, she senses his needs when he is still in her womb—this is the power of empathy.
Empathy in Relationships
I often counsel couples, and some cases reveal a lack of this empathy. In some situations, one partner may be crying, pleading, or trying to explain their pain, but the other partner remains unaffected because they lack the understanding of how much hurt they have caused. Although one partner is communicating, the other’s lack of empathy makes the communication ineffective.
Cultivate Empathy, and Communication Becomes Easier
Developing empathy within yourself can transform your relationship. When empathy exists, communication naturally becomes easier and more meaningful.
Love your partner with an Enduring Heart
Love Deeply Enough to Withstand Change
When you love someone, love them so deeply that even if they change, your love doesn’t fade. I often say that love doesn’t always stay the same. There will be days when you feel intense love, and days when you may feel very little love. Your partner may not be the same person they once were, but true love remains regardless.
Embracing Life’s Phases Together
We all go through phases where we aren’t ourselves, and we are not constant in our ways. Yet, you can’t stop loving them because you care so deeply. Loving someone is accepting them through all the changes, even when they may seem like a different person.
