Women Wants to Be Wanted, Men Wants to Be Needed : Best Advice for couples

My advice to couples, especially those who come to me, is to stop overthinking your roles. What is the essence of these roles? Men need to feel needed, and women want to feel wanted. However, sometimes these roles switch.

Role Reversal and Strong Women

Occasionally, strong women feel they need to allow their partner—whether it’s their husband or boyfriend—to feel needed. Let him handle certain tasks or take on some of your responsibilities. Let him feel involved. In my approach to relationships, I emphasize creating a balance where both partners feel valued.

The Problem in Relationships

One of the problems in our society is that sometimes men start explaining things to their women, expecting them to understand everything logically. However, not everything is “two plus two equals four.” Sometimes, women need emotional support, not logical explanations. If you provide them with emotional support, many of your problems will resolve themselves right there.

Ladies! Dont beg him for love

Don’t Beg for Love

When you start begging in front of them, that’s the day they’ll realize you can’t live without them. And then they’ll break you even more. They’ll exploit the situation.

Losing You Will Make Them Realize

If they ever lose you, that’s when they’ll realize. This is very important. We often think, “I wish they would realize how much I love them.” But they won’t realize. Instead, they keep using you like a doormat. You lay yourself out for them, and they walk all over you.

Stop Pleading for Attention

You’re constantly begging them, and they enjoy it. They feel superior, while you keep breaking yourself down. You wanted to make them a king, but you turned them into a dictator. One day, they might realize that no one else will love them the way you did, and they’ll understand that you were sincere.

If They Come Back, It’ll Be a Different Situation

And if they ever come back, it will be a different situation for you. So, what I urge you to do is: stop begging. And if, despite your sincerity, things still aren’t working out, then let him lose you.

Treat her(your women) Like a Queen if You Want to Be a King

Let me ask you something: what is the first institution for any child, especially your own? It is the mother’s lap. The first school for your child is a mother’s lap. Don’t you wish for your child to attend the best institutions? You want your child to go to the best school, and graduate from the best university, right? So, the first university for your child, the first school, the first classroom, is their mother. But how do you treat her? Like a housemaid? You want to be a king, but treat her like a queen first!

The First Institution: A Mother’s Lap

If you want your child to attend the best schools, then remember that the first school is the mother’s lap. Treat her like royalty. Provide her with emotional security. She is a woman who left her parents to be with you. Give her emotional security, give her financial security, and reassure her that you are there for her. If she is happy in the home, your child will also be happy. If she cries, your child will be upset too.

The Core of the Conversation

The essence of this conversation is simple: your wife is the first academic institution for your child. Keep her beautiful, comfortable, and in peace, and your child will grow into a remarkable person.