When does cheating hits peak

Depression Among Middle-Aged Women

According to research and statistics, the highest rates of depression are found in middle-aged women. This is largely due to the prevalence of cheating among middle-aged men.

The Impact of Financial Stability

For example, consider a couple that has gone through tough times and financial crises. By the time they reach their 40s, they become financially stable. The woman expects her partner to take good care of her and to build their family together.

The Male Perspective

However, the man may feel a desire to return to his youth, wanting to experience things he missed in his 20s. He might seek a younger partner, want to party, and in doing so, he risks destroying his established family.

Stagnation in Growth

Such individuals often find themselves stuck financially and emotionally, unable to grow or move forward in their lives.

Stop justifying cheating!

Cheating: The Highest Form of Betrayal

Cheating should not be justified. It is the highest form of betrayal, and this applies to both genders.

Communication is Key

If you are cheating, or if your partner is not treating you well and you haven’t communicated your feelings, it’s not right to blame them later. You can’t just say, “I cheated because I had these issues with you.”

Finding Solutions

The solution is to communicate openly with your partner. If issues persist despite your efforts, it’s better to step out of the relationship than to cheat. If you are in a relationship and things are not going well with your partner, cheating is not the answer.

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The Most Important Thing for Healing is Closure

The most important thing for healing is getting closure. Your partner made a mistake, you forgave them, and now you want to move forward. But you keep feeling the pain and hurt repeatedly because you haven’t found closure.

The Need to Discuss with Your Partner

You want to discuss it with your partner, ask them why they did it. But when some people come to me for counseling, I see that some use this as a tool to keep their partner in line or to keep bringing up the past. This is wrong.

Sympathy for the Victim

I agree that you were wronged, that you are the victim. What your partner did was wrong, and I have no sympathy for them. All my sympathy is with you.

Using the Past to Punish Your Partner

But if you use this as a way to keep bringing up that your partner did something wrong at a certain time, then you are constantly reopening that wound. Time can heal it, but you keep recalling the incident to punish them, to embarrass them.

Hurting Yourself in the Process

In the end, you end up hurting yourself because you cannot forget that incident or move on from it. You keep revisiting that mistake.

This is More Dangerous Than Cheating

Apathy is essentially the lack of empathy. When your partner ignores you to the extent that you stop existing for them, it becomes a deeply toxic situation. You’re in the same house, but they treat you like a piece of furniture just sitting there.

The Toxicity of Apathy

This behavior becomes a habit for your partner. They forget about you, no matter how much pain or difficulty you’re going through. They won’t even come to ask you what’s wrong. This emotional detachment can be more harmful than cheating.

How to Overcome Apathy

Marriage is based on intention. If you feel like the interest in your marriage is fading, it’s time to take action. Start dating again. Give your relationship a fresh start and reignite the connection.

Speak Before You Cheat!

Let me explain how I know this—when couples come to me for counseling, especially women, they often share stories of being cheated on. I ask them, “What exactly happened?”

A Sudden Revelation After Years of Marriage

Typically, they’ve been married for 8 to 15 years, and one day they find out, or their husband confesses, that he’s been cheating. When they confront him, he begins listing complaints: “You don’t take care of me,” “You have issues,” “There’s no intimacy,” and a host of other grievances that leave her shocked, wondering, “What just happened?”

She is Not a Mind Reader!

When she asks, “Why didn’t you tell me this earlier?” the husband responds, I thought you’d understand, I thought you’d know. The truth is, she’s not a mind reader. You have to communicate your feelings, tell her when something bothers you, or if there’s something you don’t like. Maybe she would change, and she would be willing to change herself for you

Communication is key. Expecting your partner to know what’s wrong without expressing it only leads to misunderstanding and bigger problems down the line.

The Beginning of Cheating: Just Looking

99.9% of the time, the start of cheating happens from “just looking,” whether you’re stalking someone, passing by, or engaging on social media. It starts with something as simple as liking a picture or leaving a comment.

Commitment vs. Attraction

If you’re committed to someone, how can you find another person of the opposite gender attractive? The problem isn’t necessarily your thoughts, but how you act on those thoughts.

The Danger of Acting on Attraction

It’s okay if you find someone attractive, but when you start acting on it—by commenting, liking, or interacting—that’s when cheating begins. Even “just looking” falls into the category of cheating because it’s the foundation where everything starts. This is where you begin betraying your partner, often without them even realizing what’s happening behind their back.