Easiest way to keep your wife Happy

The easiest thing in the world is to keep your wife happy, and I wonder why our husbands have made it seem like an uphill task. It’s actually very simple. First of all, you need to make her feel that no one is more important to you than your wife—especially when it comes to conflicts within the family.

One thing is to bring her flowers like gajras on your way back from the office. You tell her that she was on your mind throughout the day, send her a message at night saying, “I miss you” or “I love you.” Plan a movie night with her favorite film. When you make her preferences a priority, she’ll be happy. You don’t have to break the bank or spend a lot of money.

How to deal conflicts

And earlier, when I said that during conflicts—especially family conflicts—you shouldn’t do this: Don’t abandon her and side with another group. Don’t leave her team or her side. Remember, you are a team. She might be wrong sometimes, but that doesn’t mean you should become part of another group and stand against her. Don’t do that.

Explain things to her with love and patience; she will understand. But don’t betray the trust she has in you. She left her home for you, to be a part of your team. And if you go and join another side, that’s a betrayal.

Am I a “Jooru ka Ghulam”?

Yes, there’s a movie where they say, “Everyone has it, but no one admits it!” It’s like this – it happens to everyone, but no one says it. First of all, let me clarify that I am against this terminology, “Jooru ka Ghulam” (wife’s slave).

Nothing Wrong with Following a Wife’s Advice

If a husband is following his wife’s advice, there’s nothing wrong with that. She knows that her future is tied to her husband’s, so why would she give him wrong advice? If she’s saying something good or sensible, there’s no harm in accepting it.

Mutual Teamwork is Key

You should work as a team, and make every decision – whether it’s related to home, family, job, or money – through mutual agreement.

Let People Talk

So if someone calls you “Jooru ka Ghulam”, let them say whatever they want.

Please listen to your wife!

Your wife doesn’t need all of your time; that’s the misunderstanding. She just wants a little bit of your quality time, and by the way, she’s not so free that she needs you all day long. She has other responsibilities too—she has to look after the kids and you as well. I always tell my coaching classes, husbands, please give some quality time to your wife. I’ve seen husbands coming home, sitting with their wives but using their phones. She’s talking, but you’re not listening to her, and later you’ll say, ‘I was with you, I gave you time.’ If you just give her 30 minutes of undivided attention, she’ll be happy. Then if she talks to her mother, you’ll say she’s sharing household matters outside. If she talks to a friend, you’ll say she’s ruining your reputation. All she wants is your attention.