What Kind of People Get Attracted to Narcissists?

We all get attracted to narcissists because they are charmers, good lovers, and generous givers. They have a way of drawing people in with their charismatic personality, making it easy for anyone to be attracted to them.

Why Do We Get Stuck in Narcissistic Relationships?

The main reason we get stuck in narcissistic relationships is that, in the beginning, they engage in “love bombing.” They shower us with so much attention and affection, elevating us to the point where it feels like no one could be better than them. But once the butterfly is caught in the jar, they start to minimize and devalue us.

Who Are the People Who Stay Despite Knowing They’re Being Devalued?

These are people who are highly forgiving, empathetic, and find it hard to refuse others. Even though they know they are being devalued, their compassionate nature keeps them stuck in the relationship.

How to Escape a Narcissist

Acknowledge the Toxicity

The first step is to recognize that you are in a toxic relationship and that you want to get out of it.

Keep a Record of Abuses

Start keeping a record of their abuses. The reason for this is that we often forget the bad moments when they love bomb us after 2-3 instances of abuse. This helps to remind yourself how terrible they have been to you and reinforces your decision that you don’t want to live with that person.

Seek Legal Assistance

The next step is to seek legal assistance, especially if you are married. If you have children, you should know your legal rights and how you can exercise them when you exit the relationship.

Become Financially Independent

Often, people trapped in toxic relationships are forced to stay because they are financially dependent. Gradually, start making yourself financially independent, but be careful not to let your partner know. The day your toxic partner finds out that you are planning an exit, they will likely develop a strategy of love and affection to pull you closer again. So, do not let the other person know that you are planning to leave.

Cut Off All Contact

Lastly, and most importantly, once you have cut off the relationship, do not maintain any contact under any circumstances. Even if that person claims they are dying, let them die.